The essence of aggreeing to disagree

We have different minds, hence; our hearts are inarguably convinced by such contrasting realistic or unrealistic perspective we based on what we have experienced or believed in. We share, we voice these thoughts in a conversation. We spend too much time discussing or at least debating what we know or have learned on a particular topic to enlighten or be enlightened. That is why the nature of humans is to argue and normally, there isn’t really a right person or a wrong person here. We are just supposed to contribute by entrusting the beliefs we do possess. Unfortunately, too many people, some I know, feel like they need to fight till death do them part just to ensure they are right and above all. That’s when we say a conversation is now malnourished or obese, otherwise speaking, unhealthy. Congratulations! We’ve found a species that is more cancerous than cancer.

And now, those creatures have found a new place, a new platform to put their greatness on top. Where they can camouflage behind their phones and computers, being a truly coward by not committing to the sufferings of others brought by their hurtful words. Personally, it’s way better before the rise of social media due to the fact that people feel more overpowered by stepping other’s belief and bringing their self-esteem down in an easier and more accessible way. But why? Why is it so necessary and easy for pride to come in first? Why is it a must to prove something? Why is winning more important than anything else?

I have a relative who had a tension between my other relative in our family group chat. Religion was the main argument and I’m gonna focus on it. As a person that is more spiritual than religious, I get irritated on how they opened their minds to share their religious beliefs and then suddenly closed it before the belief of others reached their precious minds. I know that we were literally distant but their hearts were becoming more and more because they weren’t hearing each other and they let the emotions heated the conversation. In result, some of my relatives left the group chat and who’s wishing for a broken family, anyway? Maybe them, because they badly wanted to win as if God will bless them for degrading other’s opinions or beliefs.

For me, they don’t win at all. They just made me realized that man-made, organized belief makes people more distant. What they did was not really a winning. Because there was no respect in the first place. I don’t want to be a hypocrite that I once never become someone like them because I did and saying such hurtful words really haunts me leaving my pillow wet at night. I just hope you consider my perspective here or just agree to disagree.